faq

How long have you been in recovery?

Since 22nd April 2014.

I think I’ve got a problem with an addiction, can you help me?

Check out the recovery page for my full answer to this.

My friend/family member has an addiction problem and how can I help them?

This is never a one size fits all situation so it’s tough to answer at such a distance, but I can say I’m so sorry. It’s really tough to see someone you care about struggle so much. You can’t do anything for them, they need to decide that they need help and they need to be willing to do anything necessary to turn their lives around. The best thing I think you can say to someone in a difficult place is; “I love you. I am here for you. I want you to get better. I know that it may take some time, but you will need to take some steps to help yourself.”

What is the Recovery Course?

The Recovery Course is a programme based on the 12-steps that uses the bible and God to support people’s journeys to freedom. Leaders on the course are generally in recovery themselves and they will share their incredible testimonies with guests. It runs at a number of churches around the country and, at the moment, online too. They do incredible work and I am actively involved with one of the programmes. Click here to visit their website.

Do I have to be Christian to go on the Recovery Course?

No. The programme is open to people of all faiths and none. The aim is not to convert people, it’s to help them get into solid recovery. But the course does reference the Bible so if you’re not comfortable with direct Christian references, it may be worth trying an anonymous fellowship where they speak about “a higher power as you understand it” or try SMART recovery which doesn’t have a spiritual element at all.

How long have you gone to church?

I was raised going to church but stopped as a teenager. I came back with a bang five days after I got sober (in April 2014) and haven’t looked back. Church is my home, my support and my refuge.

When is your book out?

Notes On Love is out now, you can buy it with the links on the book page.

Do I have to be Christian to read your book?

No, definitely not. I want people who don’t believe what I believe to read it. There are a number of circumstances and experiences that anyone would relate to, Christian or not. That said – I do talk a lot about God, so you can’t say I didn’t warn you.

Can you help me write my dating app profile?

I would love to, but time constraints mean I’ve had to retire from critiquing people’s profiles. Pro-tip: be yourself, keep it light, take your sunglasses off.

Should I get married after 35?

No. 35 husbands is enough to keep anyone busy. 

Best advice you’ve ever been given?

Turn off your blue ticks on WhatsApp. Oh – and say thank you while you’re still grateful. 

You say you lived in Paris… does that mean you speak French?

This answer to this is subjective. If you are French, then no. No, I don’t. If you did French GCSE in a British school, then yes. Yes, I do.

What’s your favourite film?

Mean Machine. I can’t get enough of Vinnie Jones. 

Did you know that “swims” upside down still spells “swims”?

Hmmm… did you know “stressed” spelled backwards is “desserts”?

Since 22nd April 2014

Check out the recovery page for my full answer to this.

This is never a one size fits all situation so it’s tough to answer at such a distance, but I can say I’m so sorry. It’s really tough to see someone you care about struggle so much. You can’t do anything for them, they need to decide that they need help and they need to be willing to do anything necessary to turn their lives around. The best thing I think you can say to someone in a difficult place is; “I love you. I am here for you. I want you to get better. I know that it may take some time, but you will need to take some steps to help yourself.”

Also, you should know that, just as there are a plethora of programmes to support the person you care about there are also many, many to support you. Al-Anon is a group set up for the loved ones of alcoholics and there are versions for many other addictions (Nar-Anon for drugs, Gam-Anon for gambling etc.) It’s important to look after yourself.

The Recovery Course is a programme based on the 12-steps that uses the bible and God to support people’s journeys to freedom. Leaders on the course are generally in recovery themselves and they will share their incredible testimonies with guests. It runs at a number of churches around the country and, at the moment, online too. They do incredible work and I am actively involved with one of the programmes. Click here to visit their website.

No. The programme is open to people of all faiths and none. The aim is not to convert people, it’s to help them get into solid recovery. But the course does reference the Bible so if you’re not comfortable with direct Christian references, it may be worth trying an anonymous fellowship where they speak about “a higher power as you understand it” or try SMART recovery which doesn’t have a spiritual element at all.

 

I was raised going to church but stopped as a teenager. I came back with a bang five days after I got sober (in April 2014) and haven’t looked back. Church is my home, my support and my refuge. 

 

15th July 2021 but you can pre-order now (links on the book page).

 

No, definitely not. I want people who don’t believe what I believe to read it. There are a number of circumstances and experiences that anyone would relate to, Christian or not. That said – I do talk a lot about God, so you can’t say I didn’t warn you.

I would love to, but time constraints mean I’ve had to retire from critiquing people’s profiles. Pro-tip: be yourself, keep it light, take your sunglasses off.

Clean criminal record and a full set of teeth? If so – yes. If not – probably still yes.

 

Q: Best advice you’ve ever been given?

A: Turn off your blue ticks on WhatsApp.

 

 

No, 35 husbands is enough to keep anyone busy. 

 

Turn off your blue ticks on WhatsApp.

 

This answer to this is subjective. If you are French, then no. No, I don’t. If you did French GCSE in a British school, then yes. Yes, I do.

Q: Did you know that “swims” upside down still spells “swims”?

A: Hmmm… did you know “stressed” spelled backwards is “desserts”?

 

 

Mean Machine. I can’t get enough of Vinnie Jones. 

Hmmm… did you know “stressed” spelled backwards is “desserts”?